We live in a crazy society.

I don’t care how much we evolved technologically, the fact is – there is a HUGE trade-off.

• Birth rate drops
• Families collapse (divorces’ rates are shooting through the roof)
• People become more and more degenerate – using and abusing alcohol, pornography, and other drugs more than ever before.
• More addictions
• More depression
• More suicide

Fundamental rules that religion once set up for us have been broken and society has already collapsed in the last 2-3 decades as a result.

While in the past the old person in the tribe was the one who was admired (for his wisdom and his life experience) – today there’s an obsession with youth as if it is better than adulthood and maturity.

Today people are obsessed with anti-aging. In previous cultures, aging was a great thing.

Becoming mature is no longer sexy, it’s “uncool”, “boring”. The focus is on the appearance instead of what is within. And that is for a reason, but more on that in another day.

In the same way that adulthood was valued more in the past – failing was, too.

To fail is a great thing, and it always was.

Only in today’s western society where everyone is taken care in terms of getting their basic needs met by the government quite easily, no one has to really struggle to make a living.

That has made a situation in which no one actually NEED to fail in order to live.

In the past, you couldn’t avoid it. You must have been failed. In order to protect your family, you must have been risking yourself, putting yourself in uncomfortable situations and so on.

Today, since most basic needs are met easily, you don’t have to step out of your comfort zone. I mean, why would you?

This has lead to a generation of people who cannot stand failure since they’re living in a shiny bubble where everything “works” for them without any struggle whatsoever.

It’s time to say it out loud:

Failure is great.

Not good, great. You should actually seek failures in your life, you should seek things that you might “regret”, things that other people become sick only thinking of doing.

Don’t avoid taking risks and trying new things that you want only because of you afraid to be seen as “failure” if it won’t work out. Who cares about other’s opinions anyway?

The most successful people have a rich history of failures.

The rest are there not trying at all…

Well, they don’t fail… good for them… But guess what, they remain the “rest”. Do you want to be the “rest”?

If you truly want to be successful in what you do, and to win big and get more out of life in general – you must embrace failures as a part of the journey. No ways out.

Don’t run away from it – chase it!

If you want a low-quality life like everyone – which is, you know, regular of the regular – then don’t follow my advice. It’s fine, after all, it’s not for everyone, and you might not be interested in an “extreme” life with “extreme” results. Most people are, by definition – average people – and that’s totally OK.

But if you’re serious about success, and you want MORE out of life – Failure is your lovely friend.

If you don’t start your new project because you think you might screw it up – amazing – do it anyway.

And I want you to actually feel good about it. You might fail, great! It’s part of the recipe for becoming great anyway, so at least be happy and not resentful about going through it.

The more you fail the better you become at getting used to it and eventually being indifferent to it.

This, of course, will make you stronger and more powerful.

The less a person can handle failure the more easily he can be controlled.

If you don’t want to be controlled easily by everything around you (circumstances, people, other factors that aren’t YOU) and you’re interested in taking your life to your hands – I guess it’s time to embrace the failures and start to love them. Thus, you’ll be able to control your own life, isn’t that amazing?

Well… How do you actually do that?

Make Failure Your New Friend

Meet your new best friend – Failure.

“Hey failure, how are you?”

ask every morning… (No joke)

Every night before you go to bed – be mad at Failure for not encounter you at that day.

“Where have you been, you damn Failure?! I was looking for you – promise me tomorrow you’ll show up! I am telling you right here – Don’t you dare to disappoint me again!”

The moment you convince yourself failure is actually good for you and for you becoming truly happy in life is the moment you rise above everyone.

This mindset shift will automatically set you up above everyone else who is afraid of failure.

Remember – in previous cultures, to fail was necessary. Only today we are so entitled from what the government and modern society have given us that we don’t want to do risky things and put ourselves out there with the possibility of rejection or failure.

And if someone makes jokes of you for trying and failing, or trying to mock you – smile at them and continue with your mission. Let them be stuck at their unexamined, unexplored life forever and ever and not experiencing one of life’s best things – the feeling of GROWTH.

It’s only when you fail that you grow.

So go out – and seek the next (relevant*) failure.

* I am saying relevant because I am not advising just risking everything- your time is limited and you only have time for failing at things that will get you closer to your GOALS.

Don’t just fail for the sake of failing, it’s ridiculous.

But sure don’t be afraid of it and make it your new friend.

You should be proud of all the failures you had in your life because they made you who you are. The failures you had shaped your character and increased your strength, stamina, resilience, and vitality.

So be proud of them.

 

Until next time,

-Gal.