Right now I am at the center of a noisy night club writing this post to you with my laptop.

Sounds crazy, doesn’t it?

I want to ask you a simple question:

How “normal” that is?

Well, the answer is… not so much (to say the least).

Guess what? I don’t care.

You know, I’ve seen people writing from different places with their laptops. Some were “normal” places,  some weren’t. Some were more bizarre than others, ones that you would neither expect nor categorize as “regular”.

At the end of the day, I truly wonder – why should one care about what is “normal”?

They shouldn’t. That’s the point. And here’s a simple and quick explanation:

Since most people are not what I want to be in life, nor are they close to what I dream of being – I am not guiding my life based on how they live.

As simple as that.

There’s no logic behind repeat people’s behavior unless you are interested in the same outcome they have.

Since I am not interested in an average and unfulfilling outcome, like most people, I don’t see any reason why shouldn’t I be different.

It’s not being different for the sake of being different, it comes from a deeper place of understanding that how most modern people live is not what I wish for myself and therefore I should try different things.

While you can take what I am saying and agree, you shouldn’t necessarily take it to the extreme. I took it to the extreme by writing this article to you from the center of the nightclub where my ears are intensively flooded with noise from the speakers, I am not quite sure how smart that decision was, considering the fact that writing requires concentration and focus which is hard to achieve in the dancefloor.

But at least I tried something different, that no one ever tried before (at least that I personally heard of).

I like trying things that I haven’t heard done by other people.

It opens me a world full of opportunities and experiences, that I wasn’t necessarily get involved with unless I had actively put myself out there.

• What is one thing you can do right now that you haven’t heard has done before (that might take you to another level and from which you can learn)?
• What is one thing you can experience right now that might let your senses engage with reality in a new, different way?
• What is one thing you can do that other people would watch and say: WTF?

I want you to do that one thing.

Sure, you don’t want to harm anyone as you do so. This process isn’t about being provocative per se. It’s about experiencing new things in order to expand your mind and soul and reaching new dimensions. It shouldn’t cause environmental damage.  It is about enriching your being with a new, fresh activity that is some sort of “off mode” to your auto-pilot daily experience.

Pick yourself one activity that might give you another outlook on life. Watch other people’s reactions, learn from that. Watch other people’s behavior in every possible opportunity you have. And if you are hesitating: “What others might say? “Damn I might be seen as ‘strange’ and ‘weird'”, then you definitely have to sharpen your “Fuck It” muscle.

The sooner the better.

As I am writing this article for you guys, at least 3 people (primarily females, on that later) came to me and told me “Yeah, of course, it’s a coffee shop and now the time is 8 AM” (in a cynical tone)

or “Wtf are you doing?” while laughing.

When you challenge the status quo, people will feel pressure to challenge you back with unpleasant notes only to justify their averageness, their boringness. People have a hard time accepting that a person who is good looking like me, with decent clothing and grooming, do such unusual things.

If a narcotic person would make laugh of himself at the street, no one would be impressed, since it is what expected of him…

But once you represent yourself with a sense of fashion and showing value through your appearance, behaving “unserious” or “not normal” at public might be interesting, since people will wonder “Why would a well-groomed, balanced man behave in such a provocative, strange way?”

It is intriguing.

If someone is unique, aka doing something unusual, people will probably be on their way to make this person go back to “normal” as soon as possible, to be “like them”.

It’s a pure rationalization of one’s choices to remain unexciting risk-free person as the rest of the pack.

How do they do so? One word: Criticism.

If you don’t fit in, be prepared to get criticized, a lot.

That’s fine since criticism from average people is a possible sign you’re on the right path.

Being different isn’t an automatic reassurance that you’re on the right path though.

It must become from a place of desire to explore different things, rather than just for the sake of “being different and unique”

If the only reason you do it is that you want to appear cool and interesting with the intention of receiving some positive feedback/attention from people – you missed the whole point.

It’s not just a “Fuck It” thing, where you only practicing not giving a fuck, which is important for its own reasons. It’s rather DOING WHAT YOU WANT and “Fuck It” if someone doesn’t like it.

See? The fuck it isn’t the whole purpose.

You’re not leaving the house saying “I am going to be provocative, fuck everyone”.

You say instead – “I am going to do whatever I want, and if someone have problems with it – fuck them”

A completely different approach.

Back to the club…

While I am writing this to you, people are dancing in front of me. As ridiculous as that sounds, I love it. I love the feeling of watching people behaving in such an ordinary way and from doing so having a sense that I know something they don’t. I figured out things they will never understand. It’s not necessarily their fault since they were never taught how to challenge the status quo and they simply accept everything around them as it is.

It puts me in a spectator standpoint where I am objectively able to explore people and things in general.

The problem with being too “normal”

When you’re “in”, aka in the game, you can’t fully analyze the environment and draw conclusions, since you spend so much time in your head to a point where you don’t have time left to actually analyze.

By looking at their pathetic lives I am getting stronger, it’s like fuel. A fuel to work hard, a fuel to distant myself from their unmeaningful lifestyle which is “drugs, music, parties, repeat”.

They probably eat junk food, they drink alcohol, smoke some weed.

I don’t want to participate in this dark world.

Well, and if you’re curious, I got hit by some girls as well.

It’s not a surprise for me since I am aware of women’s nature. They are more curious than cats.

As they move by me, they thought: “WTF is that dude thinking to himself?”

Which spikes a desire to speak up to me to see what is that I am doing instead of dancing and be like everyone else. From where I got the courage to do so? To be so unusual.

While getting ladies’ attention wasn’t my initial or main purpose of the act, I would say it’s a positive and rewarding side-effect I find adding to the overall experience.

See? When you do what the heck you want, even if it is “abnormal”, “weird” or”crazy” – you might reap some benefits, some ‘bonuses’ i would say.

So…

What’s your next thing?

Don’t think too much, just go outside, try something completely different and unusual, and see what happens.

I promise – you won’t be disappointed.

 

Until next time,

Gal.